Ways To Avoid Orgasm-less Sex

Great sex and amazing orgasms are in part a result of good communication, and facilitating a deeper connection between partners. These components in my opinion are a vital aspect of having a healthy holistic sex life. Contrary to what seems to be popular belief, the majority of woman are not having orgasms through intercourse alone. More specifically, studies show that 75 percent of woman cannot climax from sex alone and sad to say, 10 to 15 percent of woman do not experience a climax at all. Those percentages are staggering but there are things that we can do to ensure that our sexual experiences as woman are just as enjoyable for us as they are for our partners. Below are some of my suggestions for your road to sexual bliss.

Be Honest

This, oddly enough was a hard lesson for me to learn. I was the girl who never wanted to make her lover feel bad so, I would lie about having had an orgasm or simply fake one. It took a great deal of time to realize that I was cheating myself out of a potentially amazing experience because I didn’t communicate honestly with my partner. I understand now that it is not about hurt feelings but instead, both individuals being able to experience each other deeply and fully.  Some people think that expressing their sexual preferences somehow takes the excitement out of sex. If you and your mate have good communication and a willingness to explore together, I promise your sex life will remain exciting. It is important to take the time to communicate with your partner the things that turn you on, drive you crazy, or take you to the next level. This will enable you both to establish a greater degree of consistency in the realm of dope sex.

Know Your Body

In order to communicate your likes and dislikes to your partner, you actually have to know your body and what you like, love, or simply hate. Now I understand that many woman have an uncomfortable relationship with masterbation however, it’s time to throw aside the social stigmas that accompany the idea of it and get down to business. If you are not or cannot become comfortable with your body or sexuality, then you can never expect that your partner will be able to either.

  • Take the time to learn the anatomy of your Yoni.
  • Find the sensitive areas of your body and explore different sensations with them.
  • Try different masterbation techniques to see what you like.
  • Incorporate breathing techniques into your process.
  • Perform active stretching regularly to open your body up and increase flexibility. (Yoga is great for this)
  • Most of all HAVE FUN with yourself.

Know Your Lovers Body

Sex is an act in which both individuals should be mutually invested. It is just as important for you to know your lovers body and capabilities as it is your own. There are times when we as women have unrealistic expectations of our partners. This will never help to create an awe-inspiring sexual experience with them. Sexual experiences are ones that can be created or shaped according to the needs of those involved. In other words, fantasies are good but only if they are capable of being achieved.

  • Take the time to ask your lover about what turns them on.
  • Find out what their favorite positions are.
  • Play around with both you and your partners flexibility.
  • Pay close attention to your partners responses to you as this will enable you to feel what their body is saying. (keep in mind, a persons body will never lie)

Connect On A Deeper Spiritual or Energetic Level

Sometimes the blockages to having a great orgasm are emotional or mental. Connecting with your mate on more of a spiritual level helps to alleviate these types of issues and deepen the bond with your significant other. We all understand that issues within relationships arise and emotions can fluctuate but it should never take you out of the realm of loving the other person. Love is not something that is based on an individual doing what you want them to do or even doing the “right thing by you.” Love doesn’t function that way, it simply is. That being said, we all reserve the right to walk away from anything that no longer serves the greater good of who we are. Love however, doesn’t just disappear whenever we are mad or bothered and if it does then it is not love. Despite emotional fluctuations, the core of a bond built, steeped, and maintained in love ultimately facilitates greater orgasms.

  • Take time to meditate with your lover. (This can be done in the nude and with close bodily contact)
  • Practice synchronized breathing techniques.
  • Practice activities that strengthen your nonverbal communication skills.
  • Practice simply looking into your lovers eyes and slowly touching their body without speaking.

Orgasm-less Sex Can Also Be Good

At this point you may be looking at the screen like WTF, but just because you do not climax doesn’t mean that the sex was bad.  I have had some amazing partners who could not make me climax but, the sex was good nevertheless. A woman’s body can be complex and quite difficult to learn and we have to give our partners the benefit of the doubt. Sex is a learning process. No one will ever know your body without giving them the time and patience to learn it. The ability to climax with your partner is phenomenal but patience on the road to climax may also be necessary.

Love making is an art form and in my mind should always be approached as such. An artist understands that everything they do in creating the artwork itself is a part of the process that cannot be left out. So, let your partner be your canvas, look at it and feel it so that you can create a sense of oneness with it, choose bold colors and rhythms that complement the energy present, and never limit your creativity. Always keep in mind that your partner is just that, your partner. They want you to be just as satisfied and fulfilled as they are. Give yourselves time and make an effort to create an amazing sex life, after all nothing happens overnight. Now, go love up on your honey and enjoy the moments with them.

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4 thoughts on “Ways To Avoid Orgasm-less Sex

  1. Sexually and in everyday life, when your partner can feel your essence and skillfully guide you to deeper and more passionate rhythm, your body relaxes.”only then” You can trust him, and surrender to the depth of his loving command & experience. When he seems unable to feel you, then you naturally withdraw your trust, take control, and do your best to lead yourself. – Bro.Dula

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